The Tea Drinkers Thread

[horrie hastings]

Bah humbug, Christmas ads already started on TV, noticed the first one the other day, Wynstan with a Y

Many many years ago when i worked at Franklins we would start putting the Christmas products and decorations out in the last week of September and that date is just about on us now.

Having worked in retail for around 40 years i always said i was looking forward to first Christmas away from the work rat race, it happened last year, mainly because i was on sick leave so it didn't quite feel like it was happening then, i also spent the first 3 weeks out of December out of Sydney so felt different but this year it will feel like i am away from work all together and ( hopefully ) will enjoy this time of the year catching up with friends and having a really relaxed time without all the retail and commercial build up bullsh*t.

I do feel like putting up the Christmas Tree this year though, last year because not feeling well and then being away most of December i didn't feel like putting it up but will do it this year.

[eddie]

Bah humbug, Christmas ads already started on TV, noticed the first one the other day, Wynstan with a Y

Many many years ago when i worked at Franklins we would start putting the Christmas products and decorations out in the last week of September and that date is just about on us now.

Having worked in retail for around 40 years i always said i was looking forward to first Christmas away from the work rat race, it happened last year, mainly because i was on sick leave so it didn't quite feel like it was happening then, i also spent the first 3 weeks out of December out of Sydney so felt different but this year it will feel like i am away from work all together and ( hopefully ) will enjoy this time of the year catching up with friends and having a really relaxed time without all the retail and commercial build up bullsh*t.

I do feel like putting up the Christmas Tree this year though, last year because not feeling well and then being away most of December i didn't feel like putting it up but will do it this year.

I cant decide whether to try and find the xmas tree.
If the grandkids come up I might have to, but I'm really over xmas these days.

[horrie hastings]

Well, not really.
Both my parents have been admitted . Dad is very near the end, but he is 95.
I just don't want him to be in pain at the end. It took them a week to get him on proper pain medication.
IMO they put him in the too hard basket because of his age.

Hope everything is going OK there Eddie with your mother and father.
My father has been in aged care at Bondi Waters for just over a year now, he has gone downhill over the last week and the doctors have now taken him off his normal medication and started the process of the end of life drugs so he is not in anymore pain. Only a matter of time now but he hasn't had quality of life for a while now.

[mightyrooster]

Hope everything is going OK there Eddie with your mother and father.
My father has been in aged care at Bondi Waters for just over a year now, he has gone downhill over the last week and the doctors have now taken him off his normal medication and started the process of the end of life drugs so he is not in anymore pain. Only a matter of time now but he hasn't quality of life for a while now.

Sorry to hear that Horrie. There’s been so much sadness and loss amongst our Chookpen family recently.

[horrie hastings]

Sorry to hear that Horrie. There’s been so much sadness and loss amongst our Chookpen family recently.

Thanks MR, my father has been going downhill for a while now but has been a stubborn bugger for a while now but at the start of the week he is gone downhill quickly, no surprises really it has taken longer than we thought. I sat with him for a while on Wednesday, his breathing was very laboured and was totally unresponsive, only an occasional flutter of the eyes. I said my goodbyes that day.
Have been waiting for the final call from the home,
My brother has already been carrying on like a pork chop wanting money from the will and my father hasnt even passed yet and he still doesnt understand all the legal things that have to be gone through before anything happens, he is just expecting to get $$$ the second my father passes, thank goodness it is my sister and myself in charge of his affairs.My mother is coming up to three years since she passed and my brother has never even enquired about her final resting spot, the only thing he enquired about was why there was a stop on my mothers account when she passed as he had one of her access cards and suddenly the access had stopped for him.
At least 3 of the 4 siblings are on the same page when it comes to the final family affairs.

[mightyrooster]

Thanks MR, my father has been going downhill for a while now but has been a stubborn bugger for a while now but at the start of the week he is gone downhill quickly, no surprises really it has taken longer than we thought. I sat with him for a while on Wednesday, his breathing was very laboured and was totally unresponsive, only an occasional flutter of the eyes. I said my goodbyes that day.
Have been waiting for the final call from the home,
My brother has already been carrying on like a pork chop wanting money from the will and my father hasnt even passed yet and he still doesnt understand all the legal things that have to be gone through before anything happens, he is just expecting to get $$$ the second my father passes, thank goodness it is my sister and myself in charge of his affairs.My mother is coming up to three years since she passed and my brother has never even enquired about her final resting spot, the only thing he enwuired about was why there was a stop on my mothers account when she passed as he had one of her access cards and suddenly the access had stopped for him.
At least 3 of the 4 siblings are on the same page when it comes to the final family affairs.

It’s very tough and emotional without having selfish family members making it harder. My thoughts are with you. Take care.

[Red.]

Sorry to hear about your Dad Horrie and as MR said it's very sad when a family member makes a difficult time more difficult. I lost a mate of mine to Alzheimers last week. He was 56!

[horrie hastings]

Sorry to hear about your Dad Horrie and as MR said it's very sad when a family member makes a difficult time more difficult. I lost a mate of mine to Alzheimers last week. He was 56!

Thanks Red and so sorry to hear about your mate, 56 is way to young for anything like that to happen.

My father was having a few psychotic episodes fairly recently so we thought it is only a matter of time, by Monday afternoon /evening he started to completely go down hill, unresponsive, basically just wanting and staying asleep, he had been refusing food before this.
As for the one family member who is making things more difficult, i reckon he would still have my father propped up in his family home like Weekend At Bernies if he had his way. Trying to get my brother out of the house when we had to sell to help pay for his on going care was so frustrating, he reckons he had every right to stay in the home, luckily everything was already tied up nicely at the solicitors before hand. I am not looking forward to the aftermath once my father passes but luckily everything looks liked its tied up tightly when it happens.

[mightyrooster]

Sorry to hear about your Dad Horrie and as MR said it's very sad when a family member makes a difficult time more difficult. I lost a mate of mine to Alzheimers last week. He was 56!

Sorry to hear about your friend too Red. That’s way too young.

[Big Dog]

Condolences to Horrie and Red. It's always tough losing someone close to you, particularly if they've been a part of your life for some time. May they rest in peace.

[horrie hastings]

Condolences to Horrie and Red. It's always tough losing someone close to you, particularly if they've been a part of your life for some time. May they rest in peace.

Thanks Big Dog.

[milanja]

Best wishes to all of you going through some tough times.

[horrie hastings]

It’s very tough and emotional without having selfish family members making it harder. My thoughts are with you. Take care.

Thanks MR, my brother today called my sisters and me C's and B's for not letting him know what state my father was in, yet he visited him last Monday and saw exactly what he was like, so amazing that he hasn't got access to any free money anymore, he hasn't worked for the last 12 years so trying to work out how he can keep up his alcoholic life style, meanwhile his wife is now earning $150,000 , i'm far from perfect but from what i have seen over the years my brother can not and would not know how to make a decision for him self , daddy did everything for him and now that security blanket has been taken away he is not coping at all.
I'm so glad i moved out of home when i was 19 and got to make some stupid mistakes and i made a few, a great learning curve but i am accountable for what i did and made sure i eeked out somewhat comfortable life for myself whether i would be partnered or not, luckily things fell into place that way too which i am truly grateful for.

[Andrew Walker]

Thanks MR, my father has been going downhill for a while now but has been a stubborn bugger for a while now but at the start of the week he is gone downhill quickly, no surprises really it has taken longer than we thought. I sat with him for a while on Wednesday, his breathing was very laboured and was totally unresponsive, only an occasional flutter of the eyes. I said my goodbyes that day.
Have been waiting for the final call from the home,
My brother has already been carrying on like a pork chop wanting money from the will and my father hasnt even passed yet and he still doesnt understand all the legal things that have to be gone through before anything happens, he is just expecting to get $$$ the second my father passes, thank goodness it is my sister and myself in charge of his affairs.My mother is coming up to three years since she passed and my brother has never even enquired about her final resting spot, the only thing he enquired about was why there was a stop on my mothers account when she passed as he had one of her access cards and suddenly the access had stopped for him.
At least 3 of the 4 siblings are on the same page when it comes to the final family affairs.

Sorry to hear you are going through that It is a hardcenough time as is without that kind of carry on

Stay well look after yourself

[mightyrooster]

Thanks MR, my brother today called my sisters and me C's and B's for not letting him know what state my father was in, yet he visited him last Monday and saw exactly what he was like, so amazing that he hasn't got access to any free money anymore, he hasn't worked for the last 12 years so trying to work out how he can keep up his alcoholic life style, meanwhile his wife is now earning $150,000 , i'm far from perfect but from what i have seen over the years my brother can not and would not know how to make a decision for him self , daddy did everything for him and now that security blanket has been taken away he is not coping at all.
I'm so glad i moved out of home when i was 19 and got to make some stupid mistakes and i made a few, a great learning curve but i am accountable for what i did and made sure i eeked out somewhat comfortable life for myself whether i would be partnered or not, luckily things fell into place that way too which i am truly grateful for.

Just know you and your sisters can hold your heads high. Your parents can be very proud.