The R U Ok? thread

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I cant find my glasses. land it6 aint paranoia i swear
fml i du n no

[Parkway_Drive]

Golly me too PD and we wonder will it ever get better or end.. I'm glad you have friends around you to support you as that makes all the difference. I'm lucky two of my closest friends are members from here ( I met them both through the old Wall) and I won't embarrass them by mentioning their names but they have both become like family to me. Focus on the good, not the poison nor the oxygen thieves who hurt us in the first place...I only have to look at the many bouquets of flowers on my way to and from work every day in Martin Place to see how much goodness is in people, even if we don't know them.

Tnx Sista, yeah well I wasn't travelling too well until a put out a cry for help on FB a couple of months ago...still havent told anyone my story yet (little parts of it only and I only make light of it in conversation but knowing people are concerned for my welfare was a big step in the right direction...

Yeah I went into town to get a book for my studies as the Co-op law bookstore is almost next to the Lindt Cafe. It was quite moving even going past the tent they set up some of the bouquets there. People in town were generally nicer this time...most of the people here in Australia from every demographic and religion or non-religious are really great people.

[Parkway_Drive]

I've learnt that life is not always fair. I was born with a major disability which I have had to deal with my entire life. It's no fun being a part of the minority all the time. One of my children also has a disability totally unrelated to mine. Then I lost another child, who died after birth. I sure must have upset someone in another life. But all you can do is get on with it. Luckily I was born a very determined person.

MR you are an inspiration and my heart goes out to you on many levels and even then I wouldn't be able to understand your loss.

My daughter has a considerable intellectual disability and as a parent of her it is was frustrating especially as I was only in my mid 20s when I fathered her so I wasn't emotionally equipped to deal with the problems. These days she is going great guns but the hardship my daughter's Mom and I (to a lessor extent) in looking after her and raising her so she can be as equipped as well as possible to live in our society was quite great at times, especially when there was a few times we thought we lost her (she got quite ill frequently when she was young). Kudos to you, as you are truly inspirational.

my heart is heavy reading the preceding posts from mighty rooster and chook56, all I can honestly say is I admire the courage of you both and chook 56 I do have a good mate travelling very well that beat that insidious disease now facing your daughter, my hopes and prayers are with both your families, mighty rooster I empathise with you, we did lose a son 1 week before birth about 35 years ago, it always hurts but we went on to have two excellent kids now making their way in life, that's why im a director of a charity st George children with disabilities fund. pm me if you want to have a chat about that?

You are a good good man Stephen, a few of us are planning a catch up maybe for round 2 v Souffs (Rob will be there too), hope you can make it, I would like to catch up again have a chat with you mate about a few things.

MR, that just sucks.
You have a heart of gold. I can tell.

To lose a child is the worst thing I can imagine. I am facing that possibility at the moment with my adult daughter facing a brain tumour.

Life deals its hand to us & we have to make do with what we have.

Take care.

Sh*t mate I didn't know that, I am lost for words, praying for a miracle mate as people can beat it. All the best mate, hang in there and keep on swimming as a very wise person has told me. I will try to catch up with you for a drink and a chat maybe get together with you and Backwards at a watering hole for a few hours in the middle of the year when I go to Sunny Queensland.

[Parkway_Drive]

I cant find my glasses. land it6 aint paranoia i swear
fml i du n no

Hahaha... Mate I have those moments too all the time, keep on losing and forgetting things, anxiety often does it to me.

I saw your post further up the thread, it is hard brother, I am in it with you atm... Keep on swimming brother things will get better if you stay connected, even on here, BTW Great thread you started in the Roosters discussion.

Take Care Mate!

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pd..............I remember asking you where your handle came from, and I was right!
a band my son was into , I try

I am a very sik person and need a lot of help, but im being attacked from within now, dead set.
I hate being labelled, diagnosed , etc.......................and yeh im scared.
TRUST , who do u trust??????????????????

[Guest]

, anxiety often does it to me.

Empathy

[Guest]

Dunno just dont

[chook 56]

Sh*t mate I didn't know that, I am lost for words, praying for a miracle mate as people can beat it. All the best mate, hang in there and keep on swimming as a very wise person has told me. I will try to catch up with you for a drink and a chat maybe get together with you and Backwards at a watering hole for a few hours in the middle of the year when I go to Sunny Queensland.

Early days with diagnosis.
Next scan is in Feb to see what changes there have been & treatment available.
We are all positive and trusting it will be fine….what else can you do?

An will be good to catch up for a quiet sip or too.

[novice chook]

Reading some of these posts makes me realise that whilst my life isn't perfect, I don't really have too much to complain about compared to others and I should be more grateful for what I have, and think less about what I have not.

MR, you are a champion Chookie and it is a privilege to have you as part our Roosters family on here. You've had plenty of sadness in your life but you still ooze positivity.

Chook56, all the best to you and your family and I hope that your daughter is fortunate enough to have plenty of years ahead of her.

And to Parkway and Eddie, keep fighting on guys even though I realise it is hard. I have a family member who suffers from anxiety and depression and it's a constant battle.

Take care everyone and onwards and upwards for 2015. Hope it's a good year for everyone.

NC

[redwhiteblue]

I'm just so very sad that 2 of the kindest and my most favourite people on this forum, being Mighty Rooster and Chook56, are having these tough times involving your children. The way you both interact with all of us on here, without being undignified or sniping at others, and the way you both address me personally sometimes during our chats, like I'm real human being and not just a keyboard entity, shows that both of you are exceptional human beings, and your children are blessed to have you as parents. My parents lost 3 daughters in the 1960's, a baby girl 5 days old, and 2 other daughters age 6 and 12 who died in the same dreadful year, some time before I was born in 1967. To this day, I have no idea how Mum and Dad kept going, with their faith, their volunteer work, and making sure that our home was a comforting one. Statistics say that after the death of a child, 80% of marriages break up, which is very frightening and very sad. As MR said, no parent should have to bury a child. And now my poor auntie up in QLD is nursing my cousin who is riddled with bone cancer. I sent him a boxed set of my favourite 70's CD's jam packed with loud tunes like Suzi Quatro and the Ted Mulry Gang so I hope he is cranking them up and disturbing the whole neighbourhood like we used to do as teenagers. I sincerely hope life is giving everyone the support and strength you all need during these times. You can always guarantee that coming on here, you will run into someone who does actually care what happens to you, even if you haven't met them in person.

[Jacks Fur Coat]

Just to echo RWBs sentiments if I had to pick two favourite posters on here its the same quinella...Mighty Rooster and Chook56.

Life sucks sometimes...stay strong guys and keep turning up.

Thoughts and prayers.

And to all who need it most.

[stephenj]

round two catch up count me in!a common hatred of souths will ensure we all enjoy it!

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NC

Thankyou.

[horrie hastings]

Mighty Rooster, Parkway Drive and Chook 56, what has happened and happening to you puts all of our insignificant problems pale into nothing, cannot imagine what you have been through and are going through.

I do have to say a big thankyou to redwhiteblue who helped me get through a big problem a couple of years ago, I wont go into all the details but work wise I was dealing with someone who had a serious drug problem and I tried to cover for him, in the end it caused me to have a breakdown but my partner and redwhiteblue gave me clarity and helped me out of a very dark corner.
redwhiteblue has been there for me anytime I have had a problem[and believe me there have been plenty] and I am always thank full for all the help she has given me and the friendship that will last forever.

[mightyrooster]

MR you are an inspiration and my heart goes out to you on many levels and even then I wouldn't be able to understand your loss.

My daughter has a considerable intellectual disability and as a parent of her it is was frustrating especially as I was only in my mid 20s when I fathered her so I wasn't emotionally equipped to deal with the problems. These days she is going great guns but the hardship my daughter's Mom and I (to a lessor extent) in looking after her and raising her so she can be as equipped as well as possible to live in our society was quite great at times, especially when there was a few times we thought we lost her (she got quite ill frequently when she was young). Kudos to you, as you are truly inspirational.

Thanks for those kind words PD. I can certainly understand what it's like to have a child with a disability. As I said I have lived with my own since birth. It has certainly helped me deal with my son's disability even though it is completely different to mine. He is starting high school this year and I'm very anxious about him settling in and finding friends etc. It's hard work as you would know, always having to follow up with teachers etc advocating for your child. I worry about him all the time and hope he will have a successful future.

It must have been hard for you being a young parent. I was in my mid 30's when I had my son. I'm glad to hear your daughter is doing well these days. It's a testament to you and her mother that she is going so well. All that hard work, love and dedication. I love hearing positive stories like this. Thank you for sharing it with me.