The R U Ok? thread

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Hope you get better soon.

I don't think you would want or take temazapam so a cup of tea with a dash of honey & some vicks on the chest & nasal passage may help you get off to sleep or if worst comes to worst stay on the chookpen & start reading over some of turk-283 pasts posts Im sure that will put you off to sleep..

Thanks Mickey. I've had several cups of organic peppermint tea and did do the Vicks rub as well. I also had a peppermint shower to clear my head.

[Parkway_Drive]

I'm very sorry to hear this PD and I can only imagine how hard this Christmas will be for his family.

Thanks sister...I'm using that term as we are a family of Roosters on this forum. Well most of us.

It will be quiet tough. I have seen his dad a couple of times since. He is a stoic man but I cannot fathom what he and his missus and immediate family must be feeling heading into this Christmas.

Take care of yourself too my friend!

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Thanks sister...I'm using that term as we are a family of Roosters on this forum. Well most of us.

It will be quiet tough. I have seen his dad a couple of times since. He is a stoic man but I cannot fathom what he and his missus and immediate family must be feeling heading into this Christmas.

Take care of yourself too my friend!

Oh I'm not offended by the 'sister' comment, in fact I find it flattering. Yes we do have a nice community of fans on here even if we don't always agree as that would be boring. Christmas is very hard for many families, especially those who have lost a child, as they never stop being parents regardless of the age of the child. I freely admit the quality of my Christmases has diminished since Mum died the last decent one I had with her before she became sick was 2004 and we had a nice quiet lunch on our own and watched the 2002 grand final and some Bette Midler movie..That was 10 years ago this year and it feels like yesterday.

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One more piece of my big sisterly advice before the end of the year This time of year is really good for making an effort to forgive anyone who may have wronged you in the past. No-one wants to carry past upsets or sadness into a new year and this can only affect our health and wellbeing anyway and ruin our good looks. Quite often, we get hurt simply by someone else's thoughtlessness or ignorance, not necessarily deliberate cruelty or meanness, and some people are too embarrassed to say sorry or simply do not know how. Guilt is a wasted emotion and exhausting.

[Parkway_Drive]

One more piece of my big sisterly advice before the end of the year This time of year is really good for making an effort to forgive anyone who may have wronged you in the past. No-one wants to carry past upsets or sadness into a new year and this can only affect our health and wellbeing anyway and ruin our good looks. Quite often, we get hurt simply by someone else's thoughtlessness or ignorance, not necessarily deliberate cruelty or meanness, and some people are too embarrassed to say sorry or simply do not know how. Guilt is a wasted emotion and exhausting.

Well said sis'

I too have a recent story to share (well it is past 2 and a half years have been a real struggle). It is still too raw and real for me right now....but folks like you all esp Turk, Chook 56, Cockdoodledoo, Horry, BWT and Snogard yes he is real and a mate of mine from work have helped me get to where I'm now. Still here breathing n starting to hope and dream again.

Happy Christmas and yes a simple 'I'm sorry' can sometimes be the best Christmas present to give someone you know, love or care about maybe even to someone you don't know but for some reason upset them.

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One more piece of my big sisterly advice before the end of the year This time of year is really good for making an effort to forgive anyone who may have wronged you in the past. No-one wants to carry past upsets or sadness into a new year and this can only affect our health and wellbeing anyway and ruin our good looks. Quite often, we get hurt simply by someone else's thoughtlessness or ignorance, not necessarily deliberate cruelty or meanness, and some people are too embarrassed to say sorry or simply do not know how. Guilt is a wasted emotion and exhausting.

If you don't mind me saying that message is one of purity. Cheers brightened up my night.

[Guest]

One more piece of my big sisterly advice before the end of the year This time of year is really good for making an effort to forgive anyone who may have wronged you in the past. No-one wants to carry past upsets or sadness into a new year and this can only affect our health and wellbeing anyway and ruin our good looks. Quite often, we get hurt simply by someone else's thoughtlessness or ignorance, not necessarily deliberate cruelty or meanness, and some people are too embarrassed to say sorry or simply do not know how. Guilt is a wasted emotion and exhausting.

Well said Bro'

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Well said sis'

I too have a recent story to share (well it is past 2 and a half years have been a real struggle). It is still too raw and real for me right now....but folks like you all esp Turk, Chook 56, Cockdoodledoo, Horry, BWT and Snogard yes he is real and a mate of mine from work have helped me get to where I'm now. Still here breathing n starting to hope and dream again.

Happy Christmas and yes a simple 'I'm sorry' can sometimes be the best Christmas present to give someone you know, love or care about maybe even to someone you don't know but for some reason upset them.

Golly me too PD and we wonder will it ever get better or end.. I'm glad you have friends around you to support you as that makes all the difference. I'm lucky two of my closest friends are members from here ( I met them both through the old Wall) and I won't embarrass them by mentioning their names but they have both become like family to me. Focus on the good, not the poison nor the oxygen thieves who hurt us in the first place...I only have to look at the many bouquets of flowers on my way to and from work every day in Martin Place to see how much goodness is in people, even if we don't know them.

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If you don't mind me saying that message is one of purity. Cheers brightened up my night.

Always happy to help a fellow Rooster Norman. I want to wish everyone a happy New Year and I hope 2015 will be a brighter year for those of us who have hard times in recent years. I really wish I could wave a magic wand so we would all wake up miraculously on 1st January not feeling anything negative, hurtful or painful but life is not that simplistic as we all know. Instead, I've decided to donate my monthly 'lipstick fund' to Beyond Blue next year for the coming 12 months in honour of all of us on this forum who have had struggles. For some people, the friends made on this forum can treat us better than those we know personally. Just by sharing a song, or a recipe or a restaurant review on here can make someone's day a little brighter.

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Christmas and New Year can be an especially hard time of the year for some. Happy New year to all you bro's and bro'ettes out there who feel beyond blue. If you want to talk find your friend who you feel comfortable with. If you feel you can't do that then contact one of the reputable organizations like lifeline , mensline, etc.....there is always someone who cares...Trust Me!!

[mightyrooster]

I've learnt that life is not always fair. I was born with a major disability which I have had to deal with my entire life. It's no fun being a part of the minority all the time. One of my children also has a disability totally unrelated to mine. Then I lost another child, who died after birth. I sure must have upset someone in another life. But all you can do is get on with it. Luckily I was born a very determined person.

[chook 56]

I've learnt that life is not always fair. I was born with a major disability which I have had to deal with my entire life. It's no fun being a part of the minority all the time. One of my children also has a disability totally unrelated to mine. Then I lost another child, who died after birth. I sure must have upset someone in another life. But all you can do is get on with it. Luckily I was born a very determined person.

MR, that just sucks.
You have a heart of gold. I can tell.

To lose a child is the worst thing I can imagine. I am facing that possibility at the moment with my adult daughter facing a brain tumour.

Life deals its hand to us & we have to make do with what we have.

Take care.

[stephenj]

my heart is heavy reading the preceding posts from mighty rooster and chook56, all I can honestly say is I admire the courage of you both and chook 56 I do have a good mate travelling very well that beat that insidious disease now facing your daughter, my hopes and prayers are with both your families, mighty rooster I empathise with you, we did lose a son 1 week before birth about 35 years ago, it always hurts but we went on to have two excellent kids now making their way in life, that's why im a director of a charity st George children with disabilities fund. pm me if you want to have a chat about that?

[mightyrooster]

MR, that just sucks.
You have a heart of gold. I can tell.

To lose a child is the worst thing I can imagine. I am facing that possibility at the moment with my adult daughter facing a brain tumour.

Life deals its hand to us & we have to make do with what we have.

Take care.

Thanks Chook. I am so sorry to hear about your daughter. Are the doctors able to do anything? Losing a child is so hard. Parents are not supposed to bury their children. Every Christmas, holiday, birthday and special occasion we are reminded (my husband and I) that we are missing one of our family. I can understand very much how you must be feeling. And often the well wishers around you who mean well, don't truly understand, as hard as they may try.

Sometimes when I'm having a bad day I can't help but sit in self pity at how unfair a life I have been dealt. It can be hard but I just think of my two other kids. And my disability has certainly made me a more tolerant person. I cannot stand racism or any kind of victimisation of people who are perceived as different.

Please take care of yourself. And I hope you have family and friends you can talk to. I found talking helped. But that may be a female thing.

[mightyrooster]

my heart is heavy reading the preceding posts from mighty rooster and chook56, all I can honestly say is I admire the courage of you both and chook 56 I do have a good mate travelling very well that beat that insidious disease now facing your daughter, my hopes and prayers are with both your families, mighty rooster I empathise with you, we did lose a son 1 week before birth about 35 years ago, it always hurts but we went on to have two excellent kids now making their way in life, that's why im a director of a charity st George children with disabilities fund. pm me if you want to have a chat about that?

Thanks Stephen. We lost our daughter 10 years ago now. We will never forget her. She is a twin and her sister is still with us going strong.